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Are you constantly comparing yourself to others, feeling like you must be perfect at everything?
Have you ever stopped to think how damaging this all-or-nothing thinking can be? The Five of Wands card traditionally represents competition, ambition, and struggle. It symbolizes the inner tension we feel when we are caught up in our egos, constantly comparing ourselves to others. From a young age, we are taught that we must always strive to be the best, to win at everything we do. But this kind of thinking can set up impossible standards that can never be attained, leading to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.
The adolescents on the Five of Wands card are competing with each other, each trying to prove they have the biggest stick. They believe there can only be one winner, and that anything less is humiliating. But they do not see that each person is an individual, with their own unique combination of skills and talents. Each figure on the card is dressed in a distinctive and individualized costume and design, representing this uniqueness.
The truth is, nobody can be the best at everything. We each have our own unique combination of gifts, and that is what makes us special. You don’t have to win at everything to be worthy. You are unique and special, radiating a beauty that is all your own.
Don’t participate in ego struggles brought on by the comparison game.
There is no need to struggle or prove something to others who are obviously wounded. It’s time to keep your eyes on your own paper. Be at peace with wherever you are at. My wise friend and teacher Nancy Retzlaff wrote in her book “Cinderella Doesn’t Live Here Anymore,” that:
“Comparison is a ticket to Hell. Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go directly to Hell! If you compare yourself and come off superior today, you’re sure to find yourself inferior to someone tomorrow. It never ends. We are all unique, and it’s like comparing apples to oranges on the physical level of what appears to be.”
Today you received a Get Out of Hell Free card! Love yourself and stop playing the game of superior/inferior.
Five of Wands (Reversed) in a Love Reading
New Relationship
The Five of Wands reversed can reveal a relationship dynamic where one partner feels they are in competition with the other. The competitive person may try to diminish their companion to feed their own weakened ego. This sort of behavior only reveals their underdevelopment. This card can also signify a new partner with an easily triggered, volatile temper.
Long Term Partnership
The Five of Wands reversed can signify a partner who is extremely insecure. They may act petty or behave thoughtlessly. This card can also represent a “nitpicker” who always insists on being right. They may use passive-aggressive behavior and guilt to get their way. Avoid engaging in any toxicity that perpetuates conflict.
Seeking Romance
The Five of Wands reversed can appear if you are excessively comparing yourself to others. Other people’s appearance, successes, relationship status, or accomplishments…none of these things had anything to do with you. Keep your eyes on your own paper. You cannot shine if your life is lived in other people’s shadow.
Reference: Johannes Fiebig and Evelin Burger, The Ultimate Guide to the Rider Waite Tarot, (Woodbury, MN. Llewellyn Publications., 2016), 86. The authors of this book were the first to make me realize that these were adolescents competing in a struggle.