Venus conjunct Mars synastry* can be addictive, as this Mega Mystic member’s dilemma illustrates.
Dear Mystic,
Do you ever notice yourself caught in attracting the same astro signatures in your love interests and/or relationships? For instance, I have a penchant for being attracted to Mars-Venus men.
My first boyfriend had Mars in Libra, not quite Mars-Venus in aspect but after all, Venus rules Libra. His Mars was conjunct my Venus. He was pathological and literally mentally ill, but I still fell for him. Our relationship was a dreamy lie.
My second boyfriend, another long-term relationship, had Mars opposite Venus. His Mars in Gemini was trine my Venus, and yes, it’s true what they say about Mars-Venus synastry. The sexual chemistry!
So much sex and goo-goo eyes over him. It took more than three years for my brain to wake up after being scrambled by the endorphins. He was a “Puer” aka self-obsessed man-child. A Sagittarius who ghosted any responsibility for his actions.
Our Relationship Was A Dreamy Lie
Enter my current relationship and predicament. This one has no Mars-Venus going on in his chart but Mars square Saturn. Saturn has caused my man much pain, frustration, and disappointment to him sexually. It’s been bitter in the bedroom. It’s difficult being the partner to a cold wall when you are an easy breezy Air Venus who loves her sensual pleasures.
We are such a harmonious match on all other levels. I feel I can be completely myself and comfortable in the relationship, something I haven’t felt before. Our Moons are exactly conjunct.
Due to the sex difficulties, I have found myself lured by two other men over the time we have been together. And what do you know? Both Venus-Mars men, this time with both men having conjunctions of these planets in their chart.
Mating in Captivity Is Unarousing
I was compulsively drawn to the first, though he was a personality I would usually shun as he is a dick. Sure enough when I lurked on his astrology to figure out what was wrong with me for being lured by such a chauvinistic arse, there it was. Venus conjunct Mars synastry strikes again.
So am I only capable of being attracted to Mars-Venus men? My Moon is happy with my current relationship, but Venus begs for attention and adoration. She does not want the Mars-Saturn man. She wants hot chemistry!
Maybe I am not owning my own Venus and Mars energy enough and am seeking it from another? What is it about Mars-Venus men anyway? Perhaps if I know what the appeal is, I will break its spell on me!
Sincerely,
A Mars-Venus Lover
