To be honest… rather than dishonest, I suppose… even as a Capricorn woman, I’m never sure if I truly like someone or not. “Like” feels so ordinary, like oatmeal.
It takes time, interest, effort, and genuine connection to truly get to know someone. Sometimes, those we dislike upon first impression turn out to be lifelong friends. And sometimes, those we instantly like may not be as likable once the honeymoon phase is over.
We all put on our “best” face when meeting new people, but what we believe is our best may not always be what others find appealing. We can’t see ourselves as others see us, just as they can’t see themselves as we see them. But what exactly are we seeing when we look at each other?
Our faces often become mirrors for others. If someone doesn’t like themselves, it’s unlikely they’ll ever truly like us. Similarly, if we don’t like ourselves, we probably won’t be able to genuinely like them either. But sometimes, we and they pretend for a while, maintaining the facade until everything crumbles.
When someone likes me, I can’t help but wonder if they’re seeing the authentic me or just the version I’ve presented. And when someone doesn’t like me, I immediately panic, analyzing every word and deed, desperately trying to fix whatever went wrong.
As a Capricorn woman, I tend to mistrust those who like me immediately. I also mistrust myself when I like someone instantly. Sometimes this skepticism is unwarranted, but sometimes it isn’t. Being a cautious sign, I err on the side of caution. People lie, and lies have a ripple effect. You’re a person, and so am I, but for some reason, others often overlook the fact that I’m just as much a person as they are.
If I’m wrong about being so suspicious, I’ll be relieved. I’ll admit my mistake, but only to those I trust enough to confide in. If you’re the kind of person I can trust with such a confession, you’ll be the kind of friend I would gladly die for—well, metaphorically speaking, of course.
I’m not sure if I fit the stereotype of a Capricorn woman, but one thing is for certain: I’m difficult to get to know. I apologize for that, but at the same time, I’m not sorry. It’s my way of separating the real connections from superficial ones, and determining if you’re genuine or just a beautiful illusion.
Want to know if I like you? Put up with not knowing whether I like you or not. Capricorns are capricious, always testing people, even when we don’t want to. It seems to be part of who we are. How you handle our tests makes a difference, because we know we can be quite challenging.
Apologies for being… well, challenging.
And what about you? If you watched that Billy Joel music video I shared in this post and judged it for its outdated elements, good luck getting “liked” by a Capricorn. Maybe being liked by a Capricorn isn’t for you. Listen to the lyrics, grasp the message, and don’t mistake the surface for the true meaning.
“Make your interactions with people transformational, not just transactional.”
― Patti Smith (Capricorn female)