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When Venus transits the South node, it can signify the end of a relationship or prompt a reevaluation of expectations regarding relationships. Currently experiencing this transit myself, I realize it is not simply about letting go of a specific relationship, but about shedding an outdated attachment style.
As I reflect upon my early conditioning around intimate partnering, I recognize the presence of numerous unhealthy influences. My role models, both within my family and in the wider collective, lacked relationship consciousness. Co-dependent pop songs perpetuated dysfunctional messages about the nature of relationships, the roles of women and men, and the prevalence of privacy, silence, and a “behind closed doors” attitude. This toxic soup of ideals severely limited my understanding of healthy connections.
Today, my journey towards liberating myself from negative programming involves abstaining from engaging in unhealthy situations. I am struck by the realization of how relationships can become constrictive when both parties act out of unhealed trauma or shadow aspects. Nevertheless, I acknowledge that personal growth can emerge from such relationships, even the ones society deems “bad” or toxic. With enough self-value and self-love, we can utilize these experiences as pathways to liberation and awakening… by letting them go.
Our relationship patterns run deep, and gaining awareness of attachment styles, trauma bonds, and co-dependency empowers us to break free from destructive or limiting circumstances. We may discover that many areas of our lives are intertwined with these patterns. For example, we may remain in abusive situations due to financial security or because the relationship supports our victim story, reinforcing false beliefs tied to self-esteem and self-value.
Unacknowledged dynamics from our formative years inevitably resurface in our adult relationships. Whether it’s our intimate partnerships, friendships, or work situations, the common denominator is ourselves, and that’s where the transformation needs to happen. While there is a growing conversation about narcissistic and abusive relationships through podcasts, books, talks, and seminars, there is also a danger of projecting our inner wounds onto those who we perceive as having hurt us. While they may have caused harm, continued projection keeps us in a victim stance and hinders genuine inner work.
As Venus transits my south node, I am releasing old patterns and beliefs about myself, my relationships, and my place in the world – even the illusions I once embraced. Much of what I consumed did not align with my truth, and due to a lack of necessary tools or self-gnosis, I found myself participating in toxic and self-defeating situations.
Examining any planets that aspect Venus during this transit provides a fuller picture of what we are releasing. In my case, Venus currently forms a trine aspect with my Mars Chiron conjunction. This speaks directly to an inner shift where I am transforming my relationship with the wounded masculine. The wounded masculine within me is evolving into a healthy masculine – an ally rather than an enemy. Chiron and my recent Chiron return have facilitated this transmutation. This inner change extends to my relationships with men in the external world as well.
By forming a new relationship with the masculine principle, the transformation is not limited to my partnerships alone. It permeates my connections with work, money, commitment, focus, boundaries, assertiveness, strength, courage, and other qualities that, while not exclusively masculine, find expression through the masculine energy. By embracing these qualities within myself, I no longer need to assign them solely to the men in my life and then become frustrated when they fall short – which inevitably happens when my relationship with my inner man is imbalanced.
Nevertheless, I deeply value and cherish the potential for beautiful unions, where each partner is committed to self-ownership and taking responsibility for their own soul.
In summary, as I navigate the journey of a gnostic woman, Venus’s transit of the South node invites me to release attachments that no longer serve me, to embrace a healthier relationship dynamic, and to transform not only my intimate partnerships but also my connection with the world and its systems. This process involves shedding illusions, healing old wounds, and cultivating a profound understanding of myself. As I embark on this empowering path of self-discovery, I invite you to reflect on your own journey and consider how you can liberate yourself from outdated patterns and beliefs, enriching your relationships and your connection with the world at large.